So it's no surprise that I moonlight as a shrink to my friends, right. They consider me as a 24-hour listener and advisor with a million ears to lend.
Which is fine by me; I enjoy that.
I suddenly remember a certain case where one of my close friends sat me down to talk about a particular topic. She has this...I don't know what you call it; an endless fling? They went out once but broke up but still maintain good friends now. Like, really good friends. I know them both well since we all hang out together but the guy's older than us.
My friend told me how she recently had a serious talk with the guy about the future and they ended up making a promise: if by the time she turns 30 they aren't seeing anyone, they'll get married. Kinda like Chandler and Monica in an old episode Friends, where he said "If you won't be married by 30, what do you say we live together?" and she responded, "Why wouldn't I be married by the time I'm 30?"
And Chandler replied "No...I meant hypothetically...", to which she said, "Okay, well, hypothetically, why wouldn't I be married by the time I'm 30?"
Or something like that. It always made me laugh.
Well anyways.
This friend of mine was kind of ecstatic about her and her guy's decision--because I could tell they still feel something so strongly about each other. But I did not fully share her excitement.
What do you think?
When a guy proposes that to you, should you feel flattered or offended? In a way, yes,you feel relieved. The guy you really care about has no plan to abandon you, not even in the future. No matter what happens, you will never be living a lonely life surrounded by forty cats. No mattr how hard you screw up,someone's gonna be there to take care of you. That must be a very nice feeling indeed.
But in a way, Monica was right. Why wouldn't you be married by the time you're 30? Are you so undesirable that you repel man from marrying you?
And more importantly, there's another factor to consider: what if you found someone better than that guy and you end up marrying him? Even worse, what if HE found someone and break that promise to you?
In that case, start visiting the pet stores to look for cats.
I think this is an interesting matter, no? You, who are reading this, whoever you are, have you ever been in this situation?
You don't have to post a comment- I probably don't even know you. Maybe you're just stumbling into this blog by accident.
But I really wanna know. I ended up not giving advises to that friend of mine; thankfully, she wasn't expecting any. She just needed to unload.
It's funny how much we expect from the opposite sex but at the same time we don't expect anything from them either, huh?
